“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.”
― Byron Katie, "Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life"

“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.”
― Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

“How do you react when you think you need people's love? Do you become a slave for their approval? Do you live an inauthentic life because you can't bear the thought that they might disapprove of you? Do you try to figure out how they would like you to be, and then try to become that, like a chameleon? In fact, you never really get their love. You turn into someone you aren't, and then when they say "I love you," you can't believe it, because they're loving a facade. They're loving someone who doesn't even exist, the person you're pretending to be. It's difficult to seek other people's love. It's deadly. In seeking it, you lose what is genuine. This is the prison we create for ourselves as we seek what we already have.”
― Byron Katie

“Don't believe every thing you think.”
― Byron Katie

“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them”
― Byron Katie

“I am a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality.”
― Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

“Our parents, our children, our spouses, and our friends will continue to press every button we have, until we realize what it is that we don't want to know about ourselves, yet. They will point us to our freedom every time.”
― Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

"All the advice you ever gave your partner is for you to hear”
― Byron Katie, Question Your Thinking, Change The World: Quotations from Byron Katie

“The miracle of love comes to you in the presence of the uninterpreted moment. If you are mentally somewhere else, you miss real life.”
― Byron Katie

“Nothing comes ahead of its time, and nothing ever happened that didn't need to happen.”
― Byron Katie

“When they attack you and you notice that you love them with all your heart, your Work is done.”
― Byron Katie

“If you put your hand into a fire, does anyone have to tell you to move it? Do you have to decide? No: When your hand starts to burn, it moves. You don’t have to direct it; the hand moves itself. In the same way, once you understand, through inquiry, that an untrue thought causes suffering, you move away from it.”
― Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

“Don't be careful. You could hurt yourself.”
― Byron Katie

“You are your only hope, because we're not changing until you do. Our job is to keep coming at you, as hard as we can, with everything that angers, upsets, or repulses you, until you understand. We love you that much, whether we're aware of it or not. The whole world is about you.”
― Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

“When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.”
― Byron Katie

“Seeking love keeps you from the awareness that you already have it—that you are it.”
― Byron Katie

“When you srgue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.”
― Byron Katie

“You move totally away from reality when you believe that there is a legitimate reason to suffer".”
― Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

“Since the beginning of time, people have been trying to change the world so that they can be happy. This hasn’t ever worked, because it approaches the problem backward. What The Work gives us is a way to change the projector—mind—rather than the projected. It’s like when there’s a piece of lint on a projector’s lens. We think there’s a flaw on the screen, and we try to change this person and that person, whomever the flaw appears on next. But it’s futile to try to change the projected images. Once we realize where the lint is, we can clear the lens itself. This is the end of suffering, and the beginning of a little joy in paradise.”
― Byron Katie

“Being present means living without control and always having your needs met.”
― Byron Katie, On Work And Money

“The only way I can be angry at you is when I have thought, said, or done something that is unkind in my own opinion.”
― Byron Katie

“Peace doesn't require two people; it requires only one. It has to be you. The problem begins and ends there.”
― Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

“An unquestioned mind is the world of suffering.”
― Byron Katie

“Nothing comes ahead of its time, and nothing has ever happened that didn't need to happen.”
― Byron Katie

“Hurt feelings or discomfort of any kind cannot be caused by another person. No one outside me can hurt me. That's not a possibility. It's only when I believe a stressful thought that I get hurt. And I'm the one who's hurting me by believing what I think. This is very good news, because it means that I don't have to get someone else to stop hurting me. I'm the one who can stop hurting me. It's within my power.

What we are doing with inquiry is meeting our thoughts with some simple understanding, finally. Pain, anger, and frustration will let us know when it's time to inquire. We either believe what we think or we question it: there's no other choice. Questioning our thoughts is the kinder way. Inquiry always leaves us as more loving human beings.”
― Byron Katie, I Need Your Love - Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead

“Whatever it takes for you to find your freedom, that's what you've lived.”
― Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

“I love what I think, and I'm never tempted to believe it.”
― Byron Katie, A Thousand Names for Joy: Living in Harmony with the Way Things Are

“There is nothing that isn't true if you believe it; and nothing is true, believe it or not.”
― Byron Katie.

“In my experience, we don't make thoughts appear, they just appear. One day, I noticed that their appearance just wasn't personal. Noticing that really makes it simpler to inquire.”
― Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

“We don't attach to people or to things; we attach to un-investiga-ted concepts that we believe to be true in the moment.”
― Byron Katie, Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

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